Every relationship is a potential learning experience. The pain we feel after a breakup is because of all the positive emotions we felt about that person – which highlights all the strengths we had to make that choice and attract that partner. But there were reasons it didn’t work out. And that might give us clues about traits we want to avoid in the future (was he or she too self-centered, inflexible, unkind, overly dependent?) So that, hopefully, future relationships may be more lasting.
Allow yourself your sadness, your anger – it’s part of grief. But than ask yourself – “What is the takeaway lesson? Perhaps there’s a message that will make my life happier in the future!
Contributors: Arlene B. Englander from ArleneEnglander