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How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Free Porn Videos

Without the often prohibitory notion of cost-free porn videos can quickly become problematic. Here’s how to cultivate a healthy relationship with online pornography.

The question, as one Redditor succinctly put it, isn’t “whether [the royal] you can have a healthy relationship with porn, but if YOU can.” Pornography is everywhere. It’s all over the internet, on page three of media sources, in ad campaigns and on television. Books, movies, social media… it’s next to impossible to be a regular internet user and not come across some type of media that comes with pornographic connotations.

So it doesn’t make us wonder, is this a healthy relationship? Can there even be a healthy relationship with porn? In short, the answer is yes, but it’s a bit more complicated than just that. Free online porn videos has made pornography consumable- in the same way that McDonalds has done so for hamburgers. It’s easy to find, quick, and fills a hole- so to speak. But are these free, ubiquitous, short and to the point videos what’s causing such a rift in our relationship with porn?

The Difference Between Free Porn Videos and Pornography

“Free porn videos are certainly the norm now, but it wasn’t always like that,” says PornDoe, an online site well versed in providing free pornography. “The videos are short. They’re very compact- you get from start to finish within about 5-10 minutes generally. And most people scrub through any excess storyline, because frankly- they know what they’ve come for.” The site says that one of the things that make these videos so widely sought after is their ease of access.

“This type of consumable porn is built to fit into any 15-minute gaps you might have in your day. You can view it from pretty much anywhere- traditional pornography is nothing like that.” Some may remember the difficulties of getting a hold of the glossy, often tattered porn mags of old, stashed cleverly into youthful bedroom recesses; only to be used when you were absolutely sure you wouldn’t be caught. Film pornography had its heyday in the 1970s with feature-length films and high production values- but again, it just wasn’t packaged to be conducive on the fly.

This new brand of pornography makes it incredibly easy to over inundate and develop unhealthy relationships with. Giving unnatural beauty standards a pedestal, and largely- taking away the romantic and intimate contexts that make sex so wonderful to begin with. From camera angles to over-exaggerated positions and pacing, leading many to misconstrue how sex actually works.

How Pornography Has Evolved to Affect Lives

Because of these reasons, online pornography has quickly given way for development of full-blown addictions and all the physical and mental problems that accompany them. Resulting in issues with erectile dysfunction, libido, depression, and performance anxiety. The preoccupation with online pornography is easily sated because of the short videos that are easily accessed from a home computer, office cubicle, or cell phone.

The less than thought-provoking storylines and unrealistic quick to climax god-like actors create a fissure between what is to be expected, and what actually happens in the bedroom, which can lead to a ton of communication-based relationship problems. But, just because you consume online porn, doesn’t necessarily mean you have a bad relationship with it- or that it’s unhealthy to indulge in, once in a while. Like so many other of life’s little pleasures, it’s balancing moderation with predilection.

How to Keep a Healthy Balance

Free online porn videos can actually serve to improve some relationships. Creating a space for conversation and mutual interests. Helping to encourage constructive sexual discussion, or explore curiosities that may otherwise be difficult to expand on without direct involvement in a community. Ultimately, online pornography really only poses a problem if it begins to interfere even negatively with your life and social relationships.

Indulging in pornography sporadically, or taking a break if you feel like it’s becoming a necessity, are some of the best ways to create a healthy relationship with it. It’s also important to check out a variety of different styles, not getting locked into one specific genre- as that can sometimes lead to dangerous, boundary-pushing behaviors. Perhaps most importantly, only view porn when you really want to. Some people tend to use online pornography as a type of escapism, zoning out or not really paying any attention or enjoying what it is they’re involved in. Leading to a massive emotional disconnect between emotions and sex.

Finally, be open about your porn viewing habits. While we’re not suggesting you shout your top ten hot vids from the rooftops, keeping an open dialogue with sexual and romantic partners is key. Be open about how you feel towards online porn, and allow your partner space to do the same. Then continue these conversations to parlay into what it is you both enjoy in the actual bedroom.

Written by Marcus Richards

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