Instead of imposing an arbitrary bedtime that must be followed by the kids every single night, and giving the kids the “I’m the parent you have to listen” treatment, parents should observe their children carefully and figure out the reasons why they don’t want to sleep.
With this understanding, parents can formulate better communicate strategy with their children, tackle the challenges together, and at the same time, show the children that they do care about them. Especially with older children, respect is a big thing. This has everything to do with a power struggle. If the parents can’t respect their children, we can’t expect the children to respect and listen to their parents. Once parents show understanding, love, and respect, most children will cooperate and listen in return.
Contributor: Carey Chan from babymozart.org