How To Keep The Romance Alive In A Long Distance Relationship

The hardest part about being in a long distance relationship is that you don’t have shared experiences. With hundreds, maybe even thousands of miles between you, the chance to live life together is nearly obsolete. The easiest, and cheapest, way to share an experience with your SO when you’re in an LDR, is to watch a TV show together. Pick something you’re both interested in and make sure you watch it at the same pace. This way, you have something new to bond over after each episode.

Contributors: Heather Ebert from WhatsYourPrice 

We’ve all heard the cliche that women want flowers just because, right? It’s the thought and spontaneity behind the action that drives those wishes, not the flowers. When all you have is video chatting and text messaging, it’s really easy to get comfortable in a long distance relationship. Alright, so you might get time off from work and have a few extra dollars so you plan a vacation together, but that’s maybe once or twice a year. You have to go the extra mile in a long distance relationship to let your SO know you’re thinking about them. Send them a letter or a care package, work in cahoots with their best friend to plan a surprise visit, or send flowers to their job, just because.

Contributors: Heather Ebert from WhatsYourPrice 

If you want your long distance relationship to last, you have to get spicy. Sexy photos and sensual messages will do the trick when you don’t have much opportunity for physical contact. Sexting can be weird, especially the first time or two, but you have to just open up and know that it’s going to help.

Contributors: Heather Ebert from WhatsYourPrice 

Long distance can only be kept alive if there is hope in the foreseeable future of NOT being long distance. Even though shipped away for duty need to have that hope there that one day this distance will disappear. BUT in the mean time, things to spice up that long distance relationship are letters. I know it seems so freaking old fashioned but sending a hand written letter that took time and effort to write and send is a romantic gesture that can continue to help reset that spark. You see how excited we all get when an amazon box arrives on our door step. It would be 10 times better if that amazon box was from the person we love that was 1000’s of miles away.

Contributors: Marni Kinrys from The Wing Girl Method

One super simple way to keep the romance alive when you’re dating long-distance is to treat your Skype and FaceTime sessions like dates. Since men are so visual, every now and then I’d intentionally shower, dress up, do my hair, and find flattering lighting and brought a little more sensuality to our video chat sessions.

Contributors: Danielle Bayard Jackson from Brownlucille

Partners who aren't physically together don't have to give up physical intimacy. Built with long-distance couples in mind, smart vibrators can connect to your phones using Bluetooth allowing you to control and create vibes to suit your unique preferences. In the coming year MysteryVibe's Crescendo will be able to sync up to your partner’s phone long-distance, giving them total control (not to mention its bendable shape makes it perfect for a versatile experience). In addition to being able to give your partner pleasure across distances, the experience of playing with a smart vibrator can open up conversations about desires, boundaries and other intimate details that can strengthen your connection.

Contributors: Stephanie Alys from MysteryVibe

Start and end your days with good morning and good night texts. It's such a great way to kick off each day which is especially effective if you’re living in different timezones.

Contributors: Sam Laliberte and Jared Schachter from LDR Activity Book 

Create a relationship bucket list and dream up trips and experiences you'd like to have together. 

Contributors: Sam Laliberte and Jared Schachter from #LDR Activity Book 

Have fun, be adventurous, and try new things! Technology is pretty advanced in today's society, so take advantage to meet each other's sexual needs.Romance is not always about being physically intimate. So consider enhancing the emotional connection and mental stimulation as well. This can really deepen the passion between two people and create romantic, special moments of intimacy. Do not limit yourself, be spontaneous with your acts of love!

Contributors: B. Danielle from B. Danielle Counseling & Coaching

As communities become more homogenous, it is easy to find the same restaurant in each town. Pick a place you both like and go out to eat together. This obviously works best if you are in the same or similar time zones but if not think of a creative way to handle that issue. Otherwise, you have the same menu, the same environment and it can be a close replication of dining out together. Place your phone in their spot, plug in headphones, and enjoy an evening out together.

Contributors: Justin Lavelle from PeopleLooker

Plan activities to maximize the time you do have to explore, try new foods, get outdoors, etc. Do your errands and chores when you are apart.

Contributors: Paige Arnof-Fenn from Mavens & Moguls