James Metcalfe
Most of the time when we argue, we are critiquing something our partner or friend has done or has not done essentially. Let’s call this a one, and for every one negative comment, there should be at least five positive comments according to Dr. Gottman of the Gottman Institute.
Now, this requires sheer strength at first to provide positive comments during a fight. It’s going to feel awkward and eerie at first, but it will get easier over some time.
Contributor: Jacob Kountz from kernwellnesscounseling.com
