One reason we get into arguments is we don’t realize we’re angry until it’s too late. Check in with yourself in the morning, throughout the day, when you’re stuck in traffic, waiting in line, ordering lunch, etc. All of those moments have different feelings associated with them.
You can catch yourself feeling irritated, excited, bored, nervous, etc. and take a few deep breaths, turn on some music, or soothe yourself, so that those milder feelings don’t turn into more intense feelings of anger by the time you get home. If you are calmer when you get home, you’re less likely to take those feelings out on your partner.
Contributor: Sara Stanizai