Couples can you keep an argument healthy by keeping their voices low. If one person starts to yell, it’s a red flag. At this time, both people need to take some space and cool off. If you find yourself starting sentences with the word you, that means a protective part has come up and that you’re triggered. When sentences start with you, that is the time to take a break and step aside. Try to make, I feel or I heard, statements, which give positive feedback and allow you to take ownership for your feelings.
Contributor: Kate Ziskind from Wisdom Within Ct