James Metcalfe
Take turns concisely sharing what was thought, believed, wanted, and expected. Also consider what is needed and wanted now that these interests have been challenged. So often, our arguments arise out of fear that things are no longer safe because they are occurring differently from what was expected. Then, our brains find a memory of a situation that seems similar, and it will typically choose one that didn’t go well.
We’ll start trying to protect ourselves from the same outcome, despite the different time, place, and circumstances. Our brains can play tricks on us at these times, which is why it’s crucial to have simple structures to frame the arguments and keep us focused, yet authentic.
Contributor: Nance L. Schick from nschick law
