James Metcalfe
In the case of a habit such as smoking a person at some point may attempt to get their mate to quit. Their mate, on the other hand, becomes resentful since it was known they smoked prior to establishing a relationship. Very few people are walking around with one hand raised in the air screaming: I’m looking for someone to change me!
Most people want to be loved and accepted for who they are. He or she may say: ‘You knew I was a smoker when we met.’ Generally speaking, people don’t change unless they are unhappy.
There is no amount of work or communication that can overcome being with someone who simply does not want what you want. If you or your mate needs to change in order to make a relationship work there is a good chance you may be with the wrong person.
Contributor: Kevin Darné with lovealert911.com
